Single and unattached people often wonder what options are out there re meeting a new partner. Perhaps you have tired of online dating sites and are pondering what else you can do to help realise your dreams of meeting your soul mate. A possible option is to try a dating agency such as two hearts meet where compatible partners are handpicked for you based on your own personal criteria. But if that’s not for you here are a few other ideas you could find useful:
If you’re into the great outdoors an interesting past time is hillwalking or mountaineering. Not only are they great activities to pursue but you could end up meeting a like minded partner while enjoying the fresh air and having some great exercise! Most clubs have a social side to them and organise heading off for bank holiday weekends to combine hill walking and a good night life afterwards!
If bicycling is your thing how about joining a cycling club? They also have great social events planned around their cycle trips and it’s a fantastic way to meet others who enjoy what you do.
Another very active sport is tag rugby and it’s a brilliant way to meet people your own age. It’s becoming very popular over the last few years and definitely worth checking out.
Below you will find some interesting points on the website ask men, have a read below where we have posted their first ten tips. Our next blog will contain the following ten which will give you lots of ideas on how to change your thinking around the different ways to meet someone new.
They give some tips re online dating sites but there are also some other very valid suggestions if you’re hoping to meet someone special this year and are open minded to new suggestions. Some thought-provoking ideas to get your love life off the ground!
1.Put Yourself Out There
This might be the most common advice people doled out when it comes to finding love. In fact, you may be reading this thinking, “How much more could I possibly be out there?” Well, putting yourself out there goes beyond just simple things like visibility on dating apps or frequenting your corner bar.
“Create more opportunities for you to meet other people, learn new things, and generally improve and expand your life,” says relationship expert Amy Hartle. “These should be things you actually WANT to do; activities you actually have an interest in. When you focus on doing the things you love, the right person will come into your life – not only because you’re putting yourself out there and taking chances, but because when you’re focused on the things you love, you become the best version of yourself. A potential partner gets to see you in your element.”
2.Take a Class
“Education improves who you are and exposes you to not only potential partners who may be in the class, but many others who are around the educational facility,” says relationship therapist Andrew Aaron. “Those who value education also share many other good values and thereby increasing the chance to meet someone special of high quality.”
3. Perform Volunteer Work
What’s a cause you truly care about? Volunteering helps to improve your overall mood and self-esteem, and connects you with others who share the same values.
“Unlike on a dating website or Tinder where deception and distortion are easy, participating in a group effort actually takes a commitment – something that separates those who are low in motivation from those who are vital, ambitious and determined,” says Aaron.
4.Be Open to Finding Love in All Different Places
Opportunity waits for no man, so don’t be afraid to strike up a conversation with a potential match at the grocery store, on an airplane or anywhere you meet someone who catches your eye.
“Being open can mean something as simple as making eye contact with others,” says therapist Lauren Cook. “As you enter 2020, commit to actually ‘seeing’ other people in the new year by looking at those around you.”
5. Network With Dates Who Didn’t Work Out
This may seem like strange advice, but according to marriage and family therapist Dana McNeil, the more you expand your social circle, the more likely it is you’ll meet someone.
“If you and a date don’t work out having a love match, but you really like the person and their character, there is no reason you can’t help each other to network your perspective groups of friends or family members,” she says. “If you are both able to be mature and acknowledge that a love connection isn’t happening for the two of you, why not put your collective network to good use and consider if there is someone that either of you knows who might be a good match?”
6. Ask People in Your Life to Set You Up
“It is very likely the people you admire and genuinely care for in your world hang out with and have a close relationship with other admirable and quality people who may also be looking for a new love,” says McNeil. “Letting your network (co-workers, neighbours, colleagues, etc.) know you are open to and interested in meeting some new people this year is just reinforcing your efforts with help from a community who probably has your back, and wants to help you find the best match.”
7. Leave Selfies and Filters in 2019
Speaking of online dating profiles, start putting your true self out there in 2020.
“Dating profiles that are filled with selfies make that person look like they have no social life, or like they love themselves more than anyone else ever could,” says dating profile writer Eric Resnick. “You don’t need a ton of group shots in your profile, but have your friend’s take some pics for you. You are going to have a much more natural smile when you are relaxing with your friends than when you are trying to look at the screen with one eye and at the lens with the other.”
8. Don’t Just “Spray and Pray” Online Dating Messages
Sending out the same message to hundreds of potential matches online may make your inbox more full, but if you’re serious about finding love this year, Resnick says to go for quality over quantity.
“Don’t message a woman unless there’s some evidence in her profile that she’s looking for someone like you,” he says.
9. Don’t Be Afraid to Get Off the Wheel
Dating apps can be great tools to help you find love, but they can also burn you out. If it’s too much to handle, it’s alright if you want to take a breather.
“Online dating should not be a part-time job,” says Resnick. “If you’re spending more than 20 minutes of your day on it in 2019, it’s time to limit yourself in 2020. FOMO isn’t real here, but burnout is. The people you don’t see today will still be there tomorrow, but your will to find them might not be.”
10. Know What You Value
What actually matters to you in a relationship? Getting clear on what you value most in a potential partner will help make it clear when you’ve found the right one for you.
“When you are unsure what matters to you in a relationship, it can be easy to be swayed purely by chemistry rather than an actual character traits connection,” says Cook. “Does your ideal life include adventure, safety, achievement, connection, creativity? From this, you can begin identifying what matters most to you.”