The Key to Successful Matchmaking
I’ve been in the matchmaking business for several years now, and one pattern I see time and time again is this: people who are very keen to meet someone usually succeed in doing so. Conversely, those who are half-hearted about meeting a partner often end up saying no to several potential matches, greatly reducing their chances of finding “the one.”
Commitment is Crucial
Some people join a matchmaking service to satisfy a little voice in their head nudging them to make an effort to meet a partner. They think, “If I end up alone in the future, at least I can tell myself I tried.” On the other hand, those who genuinely believe in the process and are convinced that I will find them a compatible match often click with the first or second person I introduce to them.
A Success Story
Take, for example, a very eligible man who joined up last year. He was incredibly good-looking, charismatic, witty, and ticked many boxes for numerous ladies. I thought he would be snapped up straight away. However, it wasn’t until I matched him with the fourth lady that he found someone who truly appreciated him. The first three ladies, in hindsight, realized what a great catch he was, but they didn’t give him a fair chance.
This man is in a professional career, over 6 feet tall, with an athletic build from working out a few times a week. He’s kind, generous, and romantic, always bringing a little box of handmade chocolates on a first date. He loves to cook and is a big DIY fanatic. Despite all these wonderful qualities, the first three ladies didn’t see his true value.
The Secret to Finding Love
So, what was different about the fourth lady? She was keen to meet someone. Her list of criteria wasn’t as long as some of the other ladies’. For example, she didn’t mind what a man did for a living or how tall he was. She wanted someone with empathy and a warm heart—those were the top two things on her list. The main difference was that she genuinely wanted to be in a relationship. She missed the company of a compatible partner, a lover, a best friend, and a companion to share all the ups and downs of life with.
Finding Someone Special
If you join a matchmaking agency, make sure that your heart is 100% involved. Be keen, be interested, be engaged. Don’t be half-hearted or lukewarm. Avoid having a long list of criteria that will exclude many potential partners. You never know who you’re going to have chemistry with unless you meet them.
Wouldn’t it be a shame if you missed out on your special someone because of a technicality like “they live too far away” or “they are not as tall as I would like”? Look for the qualities that last, such as kindness, loyalty, and genuineness. Embrace the journey with an open heart, and you might just find the partner you’ve been looking for.
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